controlling Anger

controlling Anger

In the past , I'm the person who is grumpy . I can not drown my anger every day . My father is aware of this .

To relieve my anger , my father gave a bag of nails and told me that I nailed the nails into the fence at the back of the house every time I get angry .

The first day I could have nailed 48 nails into the fence behind the house . But that amount is reduced gradually . I realized that anger is easier than nailing nails into the fence . Finally I could hold and control my anger that had been after me . I told this to my father .

My father told me to pull out one nail in the fence every day where I'm not angry . The days passed and did not feel the nails had dug into had me unplug and disconnect all . I told this to my father that all the nails had me unplug .

He smiled at me , and he led me into the fence . And said " Well , you have succeeded with both my son , but , look at the holes in the fence . The fence will never be the same as before . " When you say things in anger . Your words leave scars . "

I realized this that I get angry every time I think of people who I grudge the . Father's saying " ... As this hole in the hearts of others . You can stick a knife in someone , then pull out the knife ... But no matter many times you're sorry , the wound will still be there ... and injuries because the words are just as bad as physical injury ... "

Thanks Dad , now I can dampen and control my anger any time and every time

Strength of A Compliment

Strength of A Compliment

There were two girls working in a same company. Ms. Wang and Chang. Both have a different character and therefore can not share or exchange ideas with. Although the two do not hate each other, but they are not the best of friends and do not admire each other and how the properties of each.

One day, Ms. Chang asked another colleague, Mr. Chou, to admonish Ms. Wang that he repaired and drive control his emotions. Because if not, there will be people who want to be friends with him. Thus the reason Miss Chang. Mr. Chou approve Ms. Chang's request.

After a few days, Miss Chang met with Ms. Wang. Ms. Wang with a full friendly and polite rebuke Miss Chang. Since then Miss Chang notice any big change in Ms. Wang, who looks as if he has turned into a new caracter, a caracter of pleasant and well liked.

Ms. Chang and Mr. Chou met to express his gratitude, and asks  recipe used Chou advising Ms. Wang. Mr. Chou replied: 'I just said to Ms. Wang: At present there are many people who praise and admire. Especially in a special Miss Chang said that you are very gentle, knows controlling emotions, and well liked '.

Miss Chang stunned the amazing Mr. Chou who have changed caracter Miss Wang's.

Praise is the most beautiful sound of all kinds of sounds....

Free Advice

Free Advice

What is the most common gift that people love to give?

The prize is "ADVICE"!!!

We like to give advice free of charge, even when not asked.

If you do not believe, try it at the time was with a group of friends, tell them about your idea to do a new business, and see what happens.

If there are six people in the group, you might get six different opinions, complete with personal recommendations and advice.

Without a doubt, all the "advice" that is a gift given to you in good faith. That's how your friends showed their love and attention to you. How can you refuse a bit of "wisdom" is?

So, you be polite. You listen. However does not mean or useless advice or sources of advice that you fulfill your obligations as a friend who is polite, and pretended to be interested in the views, feedback, or criticism "positive" them.

Even so, be careful. At a certain point in the conversation, the majority opinion trashy beginning to make sense, and you start to get confused and doubting your own abilities.

Half an hour later, a friend, an acquaintance or a stranger that you've gone along, but once you are successful plans have been a mess in front of your eyes.

Half an hour earlier, you are so confident about your potential, but now you can not forget the pessimistic predictions and the low expectations of your friends.

The more you want to ignore it, truer it becomes.

Now, there are six new cow that eats grass in the main part of your mind, of which previously did not exist.

So what?

Well ....

At that time, I was talking to someone about my new project which will begin, when suddenly he interrupted me and said, "Camilo, let me give you some free advice ..."

My blessings, "Wait! Before you say anything to me, let me ask you some questions."

He was surprised by my quick reaction, but said, "Okay, ask ..."

I continued, "Have you ever had an experience in this field and if so, whether it was a successful experience, do you feel worthy of giving advice in this matter? After all, what would you say might affect vision and my hope in this project, and I do not need to tell you again how important this project for me. So if you are really sure of the precious gift that you will give me this? "

He thought for a moment, then said, "Forget it."

You may think I be rude to not let our opinion. However, I could have listened politely, then ignored it.

But I do not want to risk opening my mind to the negative opinions and expectations of others.

Once an idea is planted in your mind, you become a servant. If it turns out that the idea is wrong, and you allow him to enter and grow in your mind, an idea that would change the views, beliefs, and expectations you about your own abilities.

False idea that could even destroy your life.

You need to understand that a lot of "negative thoughts", which makes us bound to the life sober, actually when traced is giving another person.

We often fall victim to the negative influences of others and allow them to instill false confidence in our subconscious that ultimately will limit the growth of the physical, emotional, and intellectual us.

Wrong ideas that are programmed into our minds by others that, however would be a bad influence on our lives.

Do not let false ideas pollute our hope of success. Always ask first, whether the person who will give us counsel is a decent person. Listen only from people who are already successful in the same field, not just "the story of a bird".

("Once Upon A Cow", Dr. Camilo Cruz)

Mathematical Logic

Mathematical Logic

In a class, teacher was giving a math word problems.

TEACHER:
"You go to the supermarket to buy flour., Where there are packs of 1 kg of flour at a price of Rp. 5.000, - Also there is a packing of 5 kg of flour at a price of 20,000, - Packaging which should you buy so you can save and profit? "

ROBERT:
"We should buy packs of 1 kg at a price of Rp. 5.000, -"

TEACHER:
"Well, too bad. Answer? Wrong Robert. Should we buy flour in 5 kg packs for Rp. 20,000, -"

ROBERT:
"But the teacher was not at home ... Mom just needs a bit of flour? 1 kg I think is enough. Fact, my mother just throw one bag of flour that has been damaged due to long unused. Would not it even more wasteful and" waste of money " alone? "

TEACHER:
"Not Robert. Correct answer is we have to buy 5 kg of flour with packaging for Rp. 20.000, - because that's the answer should be."

ROBERT:
"But Mom ... to what to buy as much flour it will eventually if not used?"

TEACHER:
"Robert ... that's the correct answer. You do not argue."

ROBERT:
"But Mom ... I think the correct answer is ..."

TEACHER:
"Come on Robert! Come now follow the teacher facing the Headmaster. Your behavior is very bad today! Not you supposed to be defiant in the classroom."

(The Robert in the story above is Robert Kiyosaki, as they experienced themselves. Figures have been adjusted.)

Ten booster Your Happiness

Ten booster Your Happiness

LET GO OF DEMAND

What the hell, that actually makes you angry and disappointed? Is someone who cut the queue in front of you? Fraudulent driver who provokes you in the street? Computers are only to be booted just feels so long? Mobile should be changed twice each month as it continues to be stolen? People who mock and ridicule you? It rained all day? lots of bill that makes you angry to the fontanel?

No, that's not all. What makes you angry and disappointed is "childish demands" and "unrealistic expectations".

When you were a baby, what you need to do to get something, just screaming crying like crazy. With that capital, you get a new diaper, breast milk or cow's milk, ten or fifteen items banana scrapings to be enjoyed.

That's characteristics while still helpless you first. At that time, you can still demanding behavior acceptable. But now you've grown. You are responsible for your life, and you can no longer expect that the world will serve you as you want. If you still do it now, it's called self-induced misery, suffering alias that you create yourself. Stop.

What you need to do is actually quite easy. You only need to replace the demand and expectations, with a preference.

"I demanded that my husband does not get up early, but I'd prefer if he was able to do it."

You will better understand, and you will be the one to full understanding.

Dispose of Irrational Thinking

"I will never be happy unless I serve the world as I would like."

It is not rational. What can you just control yourself.

Want to Be Happier

Whether we realize it or not, you probably do not want to be happy. You can let go of any of your self; money, possessions, time, energy, and even love, except one; your suffering.

Happy to be starting your own volition. You want to be happy or not? Consciously you obviously want to be happy. But try again dive into your subconscious. It may be that you yourself are not willing unhappy.

When you feel angry, unhappy that suffering. Let go of your pain, not the vent. Ask yourself, "its right, would change happy at this outrage?" Extend your wick so that you can dispose of suffering.

Stop Self-Pity

You are not going to be a hero just to suffer. Is more heroic if you remain merry in the midst of suffering.

Stop Exaggerating

No need to blow-up problems to get out of proportion. It will paralyze you. Learn to make it as objective and motivation to take action.

LET GO OF REGRET

You certainly never regret anything, of course. Wong this we humans really. It was, in fact another version of the words: "We're not perfect".

No need to panic or obsessed by remorse. Make it a positive force. Think of it as a wakeup call, a slap that wakes you from sleep. Are not you a tiger?

Do not put off the action with regret. Act immediately and you will not regret it anymore, because you've done something.

Cover tightly width distance between your ideal and you are now. Enjoy your present and do what you think best. Because if you have time to regret, then you definitely have time to do something about it.

LET GO OF GREED

"I've got everything I want, and I have become what I want, except ..."

Yes. That you might. Not ALL that you want you will get.

First, your resources are limited. Secondly, your appetite is something that will never be satisfied. He was like sea water. The more you drink, the more it feels dry throat. Desire you are wrong, wrong pass of limit.

Be aware that greed is the cause of pleasure. It could have been great. But pleasure itself can become addictive. We often forget, that pleasure does not always equal happiness. When you find that pleasure was not the same as happiness, fear and concerns arose. Fear and worry it will trigger your desire greater.

Then, you will find eternal circle here: Because you desire never had the tip, then fear you will never have the estuary. Stop being imprisoned man!

Yes. But how?

Focus and priorities apply. Begin first by BEING. HAVING matter, yes later alone. And for BEING, you must DOING. Just DO your best.

LET GO OF WORRY

You know why the song "Do not Worry - Be Happy" so popular? That's why you call life.

Understand the difference between "suffering" and "worried". Suffer is a message about the problem, while worry is a message that an opportunity to grow and develop. So beware. Do you really suffer, or you actually only worry right?

If you're just worried, know that the source is fear. You are afraid of something that is still dark, blank, and do not know anything about it. Or, you are afraid to face the challenge.

Know that every second and every moment, you are the seed. The seed should be able to grow up to be big and powerful. Worry can not change the past, but it can ruin the present. Be smart, and act the challenge. Like a tiger.

LET GO OF Defensiveness

One was normal, including if it hurt others. Not command ya, but we all had ever done wrong. You know why pencils, whiteboard and chalkboard eraser was there? Because you are human.

If you are what you say?

"Aduhhh .. sorry ya. Sorry, his name is also human."

So, what do you say if someone else is wrong?

"You fool!" "Stupid!" "fool."

When you are wrong, you are human. When everyone else is wrong, they are not human. It is not rational. Thus, forgive them.

LET GO of Guilt

Guilt is a discomfort when you run into resistance against your own consciousness. Guilt itself is not too dangerous. What is more dangerous is the lack of a solution.

Feeling guilty that good. It signals a red light that warns you that stay on course. So when you are feeling guilty, listen to your heart's content. Which you choose, short-term pleasure or long-term gain?

Guilt is not finding a solution, this will make you experience:

1. The mind is not peaceful.

2. Distrust and fear in others, or even to God.

3. As per the figures, you will suffer three times:

First, when you are acting irresponsibly. Secondly, when you see other people act in a responsible manner. Third, when you have to bear the consequences.

Here is what you need to do when you are not responsible.

Remember that responsibility, is an abbreviation of "response-ability". The ability to respond appropriately. How do I get to respond appropriately? You can use the formula AAA.

1. Admit. Recognize that your actions are wrong choices.

2. Analyze. Your behavior analysis. What you choose the wrong reasons? What are the consequences? How not to repeat it? How to straighten option now?

3. Atonement, aka integrity. Integrity is the merging of the heart, soul, target, action, and faith. When it all together, you are entering the stage of atonement, aka at-one-ment.

With AAA, you can remedy the situation.

LET GO OF Spite

You, must have provoked. By other drivers on the streets, or by others who mock and harass. You must have felt attacked. At the office, at home, on the football field, in the cafeteria, anywhere.

There is no need for such things you serve. Therefore, your world can be broken day. Succumbing alone, unless your constitution is violated or trampled.

We tend to forget that we are more likely to use a heart to feel, rather than the brain to think. It seems right and reasonable. But be careful because it is illogical and irrational. It was emotional.

If you feel the need to serve the attacks, provocations, and the ridicule of others, then that of course there is.

First, your sense of justice is disturbed. When you are attacked, you feel the need to reciprocate. But, if the attack was done by accident, are not intended to attack, misunderstanding, or simply because they are stupid, what the hell kind of justice you want?

Secondly, your logic is distorted. You assume that if they are experiencing pain as you do, then they will apologize.

No. Even if they eventually apologized, it was not because of the pain that you create with a counter-attack, but because the minds and hearts of those who have a straight back. Hurting each other will not solve the problem. He even more sharp.

Third, consciously or not you are trying to avoid responsibility for ourselves happy. Because if you really want to be responsible for your own happiness, you definitely will not run away.

If so, how do I bring a sense of responsibility for the happiness of yourself? Awareness is the answer.

Know that the pain you are suffering is not because their attacks, but because of the reaction you for their behavior. Why are they so mean and cruel to you? Because they are sick, and they feel threatened by you.

Response bad attitudes of others with kindness, then you will be noble and honorable. Always try to be humble but not low self-esteem.

Know that it is not a passive patient. He did not come by itself, and imedietly you be patient. Patience was a verb and not an adjective. So wait, is be patient..

LET GO OF ENVY

You also may never feel defeated. Beware. One-one, defeat can make you become envious, that is, those spiteful and can not accept defeat. Not happy if other people happy, and happy if others are not happy.

Envious attitude, can develop in three stages.

First, when you feel the defeat. At this level, the feeling of losing it actually reasonable. Especially if you can congratulate the winners, and then make the defeat as a lesson. If not, then this is where you will begin envious seeds sown.

Second, when you start to develop a sabotage other people's behavior. The onset of the small ones, like creating issues and bad gossip, or hope and "pray" for misfortune and accidents for others. You might take the IRA is harmless.

Wrong. It was very dangerous. Why? Due to bad expectations as it is rust soul, just like iron rust. Destructive, punching holes, eroded, and undermined all the good deeds. Moreover, where the hell did all crime? Yes of prayer, hope, slander, and negative thoughts strayed like it!

Third, as already mentioned just now, everything is going to manifest into crime. You will be the one to envy, with the attitude and vile actions. You have to self-destruct.

If you begin to experience symptoms of the disease, the recipe is simple. Befriend those who win. Then, change the way you think. Replace "I want to like that," to "How can I be like that."

LET GO OF ANGER

Anger was only one letter shorter than DANGER. And "D", is the value minusn yes.

Good reason for you to not get angry, is to understand that anger will disseminate weakness. When you are angry, you are actually saying, "I'm afraid I'm Injured! I'm frustrated!" That, is another word for "I am weak."

Realize that people, goods, or circumstances, will always tend to make you angry. By design so already. You can not easily control anything outside of yourself. And if you get angry, your anger will not make the world go according to your will. Is you who have to adjust to him.

Be aware that if you are dealing with people who get angry, they're not being mean; they're just being people. Like you. And as usual, it appears upset caused by fear. Fear of losing control.

The desire to control is true. But, want to control the other person wrong. The truth, want to give an example of an example to others. Controlling the power? One also. What needs to be controlled only yourself. Once again, forgive them angry. There is nothing wrong when a human being and act as a human being.

Your own, you are angry because you subtract the one who will lose. When you are angry, what has come out is actually no need to go out and what is already actually do not need already.

LET GO OF FEAR

As you face the fear, you are in the middle of the intersection. One branch leads to cowardice, and one leads to courage. The one to the hopes and dreams, the other can lead to disappointment and sadness.

You can not retreat or remain silent, but still go ahead and choose one of the branches. With silent or retreat, you will not grow and change. Instead, you are heading to extinction and death.

Manage the one you fear, because fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Genuine but actually false.

So, you do not mind to grieve again. Have fun alone. Get busy. Do your best. No need to be afraid and not to worry. Do everything with passion and courage. It is better for you.

Instead I had already said, if you are the tiger?

("Ten Roadblocks to Happiness and How to Overcome Them")...

Common Mistakes Entrepreneurs Small Businesses and Beginners

There are five common mistakes that small businesses potentially lethal. Slightest mistake would give reason for banks not lending. Here are five fundamental errors:

1. Trying to do it all

In a small business, every person doing all the work outside of their job description. It is actually good, but we have to know when to give up a job that we can not do Ourself.

 2. Assume it will sell its own goods
 
Our business may be very promising and needed by people all over the world. However, the item may not be sold, if no one knew it was there. Develop a comprehensive marketing plan can make potential customers aware of Our business.
Promote Our business actively in the community, so people know who and what our business.

 3. Do not understand the financial

Some entrepreneurs excel in concept, but weak in managing finances. In fact, business is making good decisions with the understanding of the figures. Our business will eventually culminate in the financial statements, whether profit or loss Our business.

 4. Ignoring the most beneficial aspects of
If Our business is not running as intended, a budding entrepreneur will easily be caught unawares and carry out a new approach towards the product. However, good business is still doing what is considered to be the best and stay focused in the plan. Determine a focus to us, run and we'll find a way to succeed.

5. Run a business without enough capital
Running a small business to make a challenge how are we prepared? It's important to start a business with enough capital to get through the early days and in the early fall. Calculate how much production costs, operational costs, and specify our margin.