Free Advice

Free Advice

What is the most common gift that people love to give?

The prize is "ADVICE"!!!

We like to give advice free of charge, even when not asked.

If you do not believe, try it at the time was with a group of friends, tell them about your idea to do a new business, and see what happens.

If there are six people in the group, you might get six different opinions, complete with personal recommendations and advice.

Without a doubt, all the "advice" that is a gift given to you in good faith. That's how your friends showed their love and attention to you. How can you refuse a bit of "wisdom" is?

So, you be polite. You listen. However does not mean or useless advice or sources of advice that you fulfill your obligations as a friend who is polite, and pretended to be interested in the views, feedback, or criticism "positive" them.

Even so, be careful. At a certain point in the conversation, the majority opinion trashy beginning to make sense, and you start to get confused and doubting your own abilities.

Half an hour later, a friend, an acquaintance or a stranger that you've gone along, but once you are successful plans have been a mess in front of your eyes.

Half an hour earlier, you are so confident about your potential, but now you can not forget the pessimistic predictions and the low expectations of your friends.

The more you want to ignore it, truer it becomes.

Now, there are six new cow that eats grass in the main part of your mind, of which previously did not exist.

So what?

Well ....

At that time, I was talking to someone about my new project which will begin, when suddenly he interrupted me and said, "Camilo, let me give you some free advice ..."

My blessings, "Wait! Before you say anything to me, let me ask you some questions."

He was surprised by my quick reaction, but said, "Okay, ask ..."

I continued, "Have you ever had an experience in this field and if so, whether it was a successful experience, do you feel worthy of giving advice in this matter? After all, what would you say might affect vision and my hope in this project, and I do not need to tell you again how important this project for me. So if you are really sure of the precious gift that you will give me this? "

He thought for a moment, then said, "Forget it."

You may think I be rude to not let our opinion. However, I could have listened politely, then ignored it.

But I do not want to risk opening my mind to the negative opinions and expectations of others.

Once an idea is planted in your mind, you become a servant. If it turns out that the idea is wrong, and you allow him to enter and grow in your mind, an idea that would change the views, beliefs, and expectations you about your own abilities.

False idea that could even destroy your life.

You need to understand that a lot of "negative thoughts", which makes us bound to the life sober, actually when traced is giving another person.

We often fall victim to the negative influences of others and allow them to instill false confidence in our subconscious that ultimately will limit the growth of the physical, emotional, and intellectual us.

Wrong ideas that are programmed into our minds by others that, however would be a bad influence on our lives.

Do not let false ideas pollute our hope of success. Always ask first, whether the person who will give us counsel is a decent person. Listen only from people who are already successful in the same field, not just "the story of a bird".

("Once Upon A Cow", Dr. Camilo Cruz)